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What you shouldn’t say to a cancer caregiver| One Village

Updated: Nov 17, 2023

Live URL: https://www.onevillage.io/resource/what-you-shouldn-t-say-to-a-cancer-caregiver People sometimes don't understand what you might be going through as a cancer caregiver and that’s okay. I understand that sometimes people just want to help you even though what they are telling you might not be the best advice in the world. I know for me personally, I sometimes wish people would ask me before they start comparing their situation to mine or have a list of things I can try for my father. The most important point you have to understand when you are talking to a cancer caregiver is that they are in a lot of stress and mental turmoil. Just because they are a cancer caregiver doesn't mean they are ok. They are fighting a battle of their own and they have to do it silently. They have to deal with having to take care of a patient as well as cope with the fact that that patient might have been their whole life. Here is a list of statements you should avoid when talking to a cancer caregiver:

  1. “Were there no symptoms…” This statement strikes a nerve when I hear it. I imagine if there were definite symptoms people would go to their primary caregiver immediately. When I hear the statement I feel like I am being questioned or my mother is being questioned for our dedication as a caregiver or caregiving skills in general.

  2. “Maybe you’re not going to the right doctor…” Just don’t, if a patient and caregiver have faith in their oncologist, please let them be, there is a pretty good reason why they are consulting the doctor in the first place so maybe not go there.

  3. “Are you sure this medicine is right for them?” As a caregiver, we have a lot to already take care of and we have put our trust in a person that we might be second guessing sometimes, please don't put doubts in our heads regarding things you may not have an idea about.

  4. “But when my… was diagnosed they told us…..” every cancer and every diagnosis is different, just because a certain line of treatment worked for the cancer patient you were taking care of doesn't mean that it will work for everyone.


Always remember that as a cancer caregiver you are doing the best that you can and that you can't control everything that is happening, but you can provide as much comfort as possible to the cancer patient. Never doubt the process and have faith in your oncologist and the medical team that is with them. They know what they are doing and you know what is right for the patient that you are taking care of.


Thank you to everyone that has been reading my articles on this website, it means a lot to read your comments. I wanted to dedicate this article to my father (Mr. Jaladhi Mukherjee) who passed away after a long and brutal battle with stage 4 prostate cancer in August. He is the reason I started writing these articles. Check out more resources at: https://www.lanierlawfirm.com/mesothelioma/cancer/treatment/

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Beautiful, thank you.

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